When is enough, really enough?
Have y'all read this book? My husband and I just started reading it in our own little book club and first off let me just say this guy likes to say the F word....a lot. It's fairly comical, down to earth, a little cheesy, but totally relatable. Keeping it real for sure. He talks about what we have vs. what we don't have, and focusing on the lack there of, actually makes us less productive and less positive vs. looking at what we do have. When we figure out what we actually need to be giving a "F" about, figuring out our priorities then all the other stuff doesn't really need to matter. We live in such a society where enough is never enough. We need more more and more. And us as alcoholics, really feel that way. Possibly more so than "normal" people. We also care so much about what other people think of us. The judgement (perhaps that we put on ourselves) is so extreme. One of the reasons I started this blog was to try to keep it as real as possible, with no judgement and no shame. This author also says that all the positive self help stuff actually hones in on what we lack and emphasizes our personal shortcomings and failures... Especially when we see everyone else on Facebook or other social media doing "so well". So why do we all think we need to put up this facade of how great our lives are? Probably because the ones before us did it? Or maybe they didn't. What did people do before phones and social media? Maybe they just were.. people. Just as we were created. And focused on what was right in front of us, what was most important, instead of what everyone else was doing? Or maybe not. Who knows. But just for today, I'm really enjoying these book clubs I'm in. So much of what I have been reading in all these different books, really is all the same stuff, just said in different ways by different people and so much of it goes back to the program I am in and even the Bible. How cool is that? What books have you been reading lately?